In the game Stardew Valley, the primary objective is to restore your grandfather’s farm by harvesting crops, raising animals and expanding the farm’s faculties to make money. There are other side quests as well, such as exploring the mines or restoring the Community Center, but building relationships with the townspeople is typically what gets players attached to the game.
Developing connections with the locals is beneficial for the overall gameplay because it helps you advance in the game and unlocks new stories to follow. Out of all the locals, only 12 of them are potential marriage candidates. Just like in real-life, these characters have their own personalized back story complete with aspirations and personal struggles. Giving gifts and conversing with them is the best way to strengthen your relationship and increase your heart rating. Reaching a certain heart rating with a character will unlock “heart events” that give you more information about them.
All the locals have their own schedule they follow on a day-to-day basis. Understanding a character’s schedule and their list of likes and dislikes will be key to furthering your relationship with them. In this Stardew Valley dating guide, we will go over everything you need to know about dating Sebastian.
Sebastian in particular has a very complicated schedule. He’s known as a loner, so he spends a lot of time in his bedroom, which makes it difficult to interact with him. He is Robin’s son and lives in her basement located in The Mountains. Maru is his half-sister, and like a typical eldest child, he feels like his little sister gets all the attention. Because of this, Sebastian tends to get deeply absorbed in his work or his video games, so he mostly just hangs out in his room. On the Stardew Valley Developer Blog, it states Sebastian can be unfriendly to people he doesn’t know, but a charming new farmer might cultivate the “wasteland of his heart.”
Every character has their own list of likes and dislikes.
Stardew Valley Dating Guide: Sebastian’s Likes and Dislikes
Just like real-life people, every character in the game has their own opinions and their own list of things they like and dislike. You can give almost any item in the game to a character, but that doesn’t guarantee they will like it. There are five categories an item can fall under: love, like, neutral, dislike and hate. Gifting an item that a character loves will earn you more points towards your heart rating, but gifting an item that a character hates will subtract points.
Loves
Sebastian loves all the items listed under “Universal Loves,” but more personalized items that he loves are frozen tear, obsidian, pumpkin soup, sashimi and void egg. When one of these items is given to Sebastian, he will say “I really love this. How did you know?”
Likes
Sebastian likes the majority of items listed under “Universal Likes,” with the exception of disliking flowers and hating a complete breakfast, farmer’s lunch and omelet. More personalized items that Sebastian likes are coffee, green tea, oil, poppy, flounder and quartz. When one of these items is given to Sebastian, he will say “Thanks, I like this.”
Neutral
Sebastian feels neutral towards all the items under “Universal Neutrals,” all fruit (with the exception of disliking fruit tree fruit and salmonberry), all fish (with the exception of disliking carp and snails, and liking flounder) and all milk. When one of these items is given to Sebastian, he will say “… thanks.”
Dislike
Sebastian dislikes all the items listed under “Universal Dislikes,” with the exception of hating clay, feeling neutral about fish and loving obsidian and void egg. He also dislikes all flowers with the exception of liking Poppy. More personalized items that Sebastian dislikes are chanterelle, common mushroom, daffodil, dandelion, ginger, hazelnut, holly, leek, magma cap, morel, purple mushroom, salmonberry, snow yam, wild horseradish and winter root. When one of these items is given to Sebastian, he will say “…?”
Hates
Sebastian hates all he items listed under “Universal Hates,” all eggs (with the exception of loving void egg) and all artisan goods (with the exception of liking coffee, green tea and oil). More personalized items that Sebastian hates are clay, complete breakfast, farmer’s lunch, omelet and pina colada. When one of these items is given to Sebastian, he will say “… I hate this.”
Try to gift Sebastian items he loves because it will help increase his heart rating faster and giving him items he hates will quickly decrease your heart rating with him. Giving him an item on his birthday can earn 8x more points, and during the Feast of the Winter Star you can earn 5x more points. Sebastian’s birthday is Winter 10 and giving him an item will also unlock a unique dialogue.
Sebastian can mostly be found in his room or smoking by the lake.
Stardew Valley Dating Guide: Sebastian’s Schedule
Every character’s schedule changes depending on the season and your relationship status with them. Knowing when and where Sebastian is at all times will be beneficial in advancing your relationship. Keep in mind that every day you don’t interact with a character, your heart rating decreases a little.
Spring
In the Spring, most days Sebastian will usually stay in his room until 3:00 p.m. where he will then move to the kitchen. He will only stay in the kitchen for 30 minutes before returning to his room. At 6:30 p.m. he will leave his house to go smoke by the lake. Three hours of smoking later, at 9:30 p.m. he returns to his room and remains there for the rest of the day.
On Fridays, Sebastian will leave the house at 3:00 p.m. to go play pool with Sam at the Saloon. At 9:10 p.m. he will head home and remain there for he rest of the day.
On Saturdays, Sebastian will wake up at 9:00 a.m. and head over and hang out with Sam in front of Haley and Emily’s house. At 12:30p.m. he will follow Sam into his room and hang out there for the majority of the day. At 6:00 p.m. the pair will go by the river in front of Sam’s house to smoke. At 7:30 p.m. Sebastian will head back home and remain there for the rest of the day.
After the railroad is unlocked, on Thursdays Sebastian will leave his room at 2:00 p.m. to go smoke by the train station. At 9:30 p.m. he will head home and remain there for the rest of the day.
If you have less than six hearts with Sebastian (and on Spring 15), on Spring 11 he will leave his room at 5:30 p.m. to go to the kitchen. At 6:30 p.m. he will go back into his room and remain there for the rest of the day.
If you have six or more hearts with Sebastian, on Spring 11 and Spring 25 he will leave his room at 3:00 p.m. to stand in the kitchen. At 3:30 p.m. he will move back into his room and play on his computer. At 6:30 p.m. he will walk to the lake next to his house and smoke for three hours. At 9:30 p.m. he will go back inside and remain there for the rest of the day.
Summer
In the Summer, most days Sebastian will usually stay in his room until 3:00 p.m. where he will then move to the kitchen. He will only stay in the kitchen for 30 minutes before returning to his room. At 6:30 p.m. he will leave his house to go smoke by the lake. Three hours of smoking later, at 9:30 p.m. he returns to his room and remains there for the rest of the day.
On Fridays, Sebastian will leave the house at 3:00 p.m. to go play pool with Sam at the Saloon. At 9:10 p.m. he will head home and remain there for the rest of the day.
On Saturdays, Sebastian will wake up at 9:00 a.m. and head over and hang out with Sam in front of Haley and Emily’s house. At 12:30p.m. he will follow Sam into his room and hang out there for the majority of the day. At 6:00 p.m. the pair will go by the river in front of Sam’s house to smoke. At 7:30 p.m. Sebastian will head back home and remain there for the rest of the day.
After the railroad is unlocked, on Thursdays Sebastian will leave his room at 2:00 p.m. to go smoke by the train station. At 9:30 p.m. he will head home and remain there for the rest of the day.
If you have less than six hearts with Sebastian (and on Summer 15), on Summer 11 he will leave his room at 5:30 p.m. to go to the kitchen. At 6:30 p.m. he will go back into his room and remain there for the rest of the day.
If you have six or more hearts with Sebastian, on Summer 11 and Summer 25 he will leave his room at 3:00 p.m. to stand in the kitchen. At 3:30 p.m. he will move back into his room and play on his computer. At 6:30 p.m. he will walk to the lake next to his house and smoke for three hours. At 9:30 p.m. he will go back inside and remain there for the rest of the day.
As you’ve probably noticed, Sebastian’s schedule is almost identical to his Spring schedule. The only difference is, on Summer 4 he will leave his house at 10:00 a.m. and head to the clinic. At 4:00 p.m. he will head home and remain there for the rest of the day.
Fall
In the Fall, Sebastian will leave his house at 12:00 p.m. and walk to the lake next to his house. From 12:00 p.m. to 4:00 pm he will hang around the lake in different locations. At 4:00 p.m. he returns home to hang out in the kitchen. At 5:30 p.m. he will head back into his room and remain there for the rest of the day.
On Fridays, Sebastian will leave the house at 3:00 p.m. to go play pool with Sam at the Saloon. At 9:10 p.m. he will head home and remain there for the rest of the day.
On Saturdays, Sebastian will wake up at 9:00 a.m. and head over and hang out with Sam in front of Haley and Emily’s house. At 12:30p.m. he will follow Sam into his room and hang out there for the majority of the day. At 6:00 p.m. the pair will go by the river in front of Sam’s house to smoke. At 7:30 p.m. Sebastian will head back home and remain there for the rest of the day.
After the railroad is unlocked, on Thursdays Sebastian will leave his room at 2:00 p.m. to go smoke by the train station. At 9:30 p.m. he will head home and remain there for the rest of the day.
If you have less than six hearts with Sebastian (and on Fall 15), on Fall 11 he will leave his room at 5:30 p.m. to go to the kitchen. At 6:30 p.m. he will go back into his room and remain there for the rest of the day.
If you have six or more hearts with Sebastian, on Fall 11 and Fall 25 he will leave his room at 3:00 p.m. to stand in the kitchen. At 3:30 p.m. he will move back into his room and play on his computer. At 6:30 p.m. he will walk to the lake next to his house and smoke for three hours. At 9:30 p.m. he will go back inside and remain there for the rest of the day.
Winter
In the Winter, most days Sebastian will usually stay in his room until 3:00 p.m. where he will then move to the kitchen. He will only stay in the kitchen for 30 minutes before returning to his room. At 6:30 p.m. he will leave his house to go smoke by the lake. Three hours of smoking later, at 9:30 p.m. he returns to his room and remains there for the rest of the day.
On Fridays, Sebastian will leave the house at 3:00 p.m. to go play pool with Sam at the Saloon. At 9:10 p.m. he will head home and remain there for the rest of the day.
On Saturdays, Sebastian will wake up at 9:00 a.m. and head over and hang out with Sam in front of Haley and Emily’s house. At 12:30p.m. he will follow Sam into his room and hang out there for the majority of the day. At 6:00 p.m. the pair will go by the river in front of Sam’s house to smoke. At 7:30 p.m. Sebastian will head back home and remain there for the rest of the day.
After the railroad is unlocked, on Thursdays Sebastian will leave his room at 2:00 p.m. to go smoke by the train station. At 9:30 p.m. he will head home and remain there for the rest of the day.
If you have less than six hearts with Sebastian (and on Winter 15), on Winter 11 he will leave his room at 5:30 p.m. to go to the kitchen. At 6:30 p.m. he will go back into his room and remain there for the rest of the day.
If you have six or more hearts with Sebastian, on Winter 11 and Winter 25 he will leave his room at 3:00 p.m. to stand in the kitchen. At 3:30 p.m. he will move back into his room and play on his computer. At 6:30 p.m. he will walk to the lake next to his house and smoke for three hours. At 9:30 p.m. he will go back inside and remain there for the rest of the day.
As you’ve probably noticed, Sebastian’s schedule is almost identical to his Spring and Summer schedule. The only difference is, on Winter 16 he will leave his house at 3:00 p.m. and hang out in the kitchen. At 3:40 p.m. he will return to his room. At 5:00 p.m. he will head to the Night Market, and then return home at 11:30 p.m. to end the day.
Special Occasions
Sebastian has two random schedules for when it rains. The first option is he will get out of bed at 10:30 a.m. and go to the beach. At 5:00 p.m. he will head home and remain there for the rest of the day. The second option is he will leave his house at 3:00 p.m. to go to the Stardrop Saloon. At 9:10 p.m. he will head home and remain there for the rest of the day.
If married to Sebastian, he can usually be found around the farm watering crops or feeding the animals. But on Mondays he will leave at 9:00 a.m. to go to his old spot my Mountain Lake, at 1:00 p.m. he will visit Robin, and at 5:20 p.m. he will head home. On Fridays he will leave at 9:00 a.m. to go to the beach, at 3:00 p.m. he will leave the beach and head to the Stardrop Saloon, and at 9:30 p.m. he will return home.
Furthering your relationship with Sebastian will unlock heart events.
Stardew Valley Dating Guide: Sebastian’s Heart Events
After achieving a certain number of hearts with Sam, special heart events will be triggered that help players connect with him on a more personal level. These events are cutscenes that give you more insight into his life.
First Heart Event
Once two hearts have been reached with Sebastian, enter his room during a time he is there. You will find Sebastian working on the computer and he apologizes for making you wait. You are given the option to either ask him what he’s working on or compliment him on his room décor. Both of these options have no effect on your friendship level with him. Sebastian then receives a text from Sam asking to hang out, but Sebastian says he rather not. Robin then enters his room and tells him Abigail was looking for him and will stop by later. Sebastian expresses his irritation that nobody takes his job seriously, and you are given the option to either ask him about his career goals or ask why he doesn’t want to see his friends. Both of these options have no effect on your friendship level with him.
Second Heart Event
Once four hearts have been reached with Sebastian, between 11 a.m. and 5 p.m. go to The Mountain. You will find Sebastian working on a motorcycle in the garage. He explains that it belongs to him, and he likes to go on long rides far away from town. He suggests the idea of you taking a ride with him one day. You are given the option to say either “That sounds fun” (to which Sebastian will say “Great”), “No thanks. That sounds stupid” (to which Sebastian will say “Okay… Nevermind then”) or “I’m scared of motorcycles” (to which Sebastian will either say “Don’t worry, I’ll make sure to show you the ropes before I let you do anything dangerous” or “There’s no need to worry… I’ll make sure you’re safe”). Neither of these options will have any effect on your friendship level with him.
Third Heart Event
Once six hearts have been reached with Sebastian, enter his room whenever he is there. Sebastian will invite you to play Solarion Chronicles with him and Sam. You play through a scenario and are given the option to choose either be a warrior, a healer or a wizard. Neither of these options will have any effect on your friendship level with him. To achieve a perfect score, go through the front door, choose to fight the skeleton, raise your shield, go through the left hallway glowing with a green light and then destroy the capsules. During the final battle, if you chose to be a warrior you must defend your friends while the wizard is casting a spell and then attack the boss. If you chose to be a healer, heal Sebastian and he will defeat the boss. If you chose to be a wizard, use “Shield Charm” to protect Sebastian and attack the boss.
Fourth Heart Event
Once eight hearts have been reached with Sebastian, go to the beach between noon and 11 p.m. on a rainy day. You will find Sebastian standing on the boardwalk, he is surprised to see you out in the rain. He tells you he is usually anxious around other people, but he doesn’t feel that way with you. He takes out an umbrella and you and Sebastian enjoy the rain together.
Fifth Heart Event
Once ten hearts have been reached with Sebastian, between 8 p.m. and midnight go to The Mountain. You find Sebastian outside and he says he was just about to go on a motorcycle ride. You join him and he brings you to his favorite spot to think and admire the city. If you’re a girl, he will tell you he’s never brought another girl to this spot. If you’re a boy, he will tell you he’s never felt this way about other guys. He takes a couple puffs from his cigarette, and you are given the option to say either “It’s beautiful,” “It gives me a strange, sad feeling,” “Kind of ugly” or “You should quit smoking.” If you choose to comment on his smoking, he will seem a little annoyed. Either way, all options end with a kiss under the stars.
The final step to capturing Sebastian’s heart is marriage.
Stardew Valley Dating Guide: Marrying Sebastian
After you’ve reached ten hearts with Sebastian, you can finally marry him. To become engaged, you must give Sebastian a Mermaid’s Pendant which can be bought from the Old Mariner. The Old Mariner will be by the tidal pools on the beach and will sell you the pendant for 5,000g. He will not sell you the pendant until your farmhouse has been upgraded at least once. Present the Mermaid’s Pendant to Sebastian, and you are officially engaged.
The wedding will be held three days later, and your friendship level with Sebastian can now reach 14 hearts. Be warned, even though you’re married, if you don’t converse with Sebastian once a day your friendship level will still decrease. Sebastian will move into your farmhouse and get her own personalized space. He will also help with chores around the house and with your farm.
After reaching 14 hearts with Sebastian, on a rainy day between 6 a.m. and 7 p.m. go to The Mountain. You will find Sebastian by the lake and will be glad to see you. He tells you he found an injured frog and needs help rescuing it. You help him catch the frog and he notices the frog’s leg is very injured. You are given the option to say either “It’s our new son,” “I don’t think he’s going to make it,” “Let’s nurse him back to health” or “What should we do with him?” If you choose the first option, Sebastian will tease you about it, but no matter what he will take the frog home with him. Enter the farmhouse to trigger the next cutscene. You find that Sebastian has turned his area into a terrarium for the frog, and he wonders if the frog will get lonely. You are given the option to say either “He’ll be fine” (to which Sebastian will agree but still wish for a frog friend) or “Why not start a frog sanctuary?” (to which Sebastian will be enthusiastic about). You are then given the option to say either “I’m glad you’ve found a new hobby” (to which Sebastian says he might take up frog breeding), “I don’t really want this in the house” (to which Sebastian will tell you he can do whatever he wants) or “Why do you like frogs so much, anyway?” (to which Sebastian will tell you he gained a natural affinity for frogs from being out in the rain). Neither of these options have any effect on your friendship level with him, and no matter what the room will remain a terrarium.
Every marriage candidate comes with the same marriage benefits, but every storyline is different and unique for that character. To learn how to charm Alex, Elliot, Harvey or Sam, check out the other Stardew Valley dating guides.
